Germany
So I'm sure that I would not be able to describe the feelings and
experiences I had in Germany in the 10 days which we spent with Ira's
father , Nadya, Mira & Mosya , but any way I will try to do it in one post
, although it deserves much more.
When I met Ira I learned that she has only a mother and actually
she doesn't has a father and she doesn't even know if he is alive or not.
It was really strange for me because I got used to have both
parents , and even my friends whom parents divorced still kept in touch
with both of their parents.
After we got married Ira insisted on keeping her family name and
just adding mine. I was totally OK with that but I told her that she needs to
know who's family name she is keeping and that she needs to find her father.
A day after I came back from work with a page which had Ira's
father details , his address, phone, his details of immigration, and his recent
photo. I pressed the digits on my phone and handed it for Ira to press
the Dial button. Ira pressed dial and the hung up, Dial and hang up, then I took her hand and she managed to dial, on the other side of a
phone a man answered : Cherkes .
Ira : can I speak with Lazar
Man : This is Lazar , who is it ?
Ira : this is Ira
Man : which Ira ?
Ira : your daughter Ira
silence ....
After few seconds they changed few words and Lazar said that he can’t
talk right now and took Ira's phone number promising to call back tomorrow. That day was one of the longest in my life, and finally after my
regular training I saw an unanswered call from Germany. I screamed from happiness in my car apparently he called Ira few
minutes after and they had a firs nice talk after 23 years of separation.
From here to there the connection was renewed. After about a month
and a half it came to a point that both sides were interested in meeting each
other. We planned our honey moon in a way that will allow us a 10 days stay in
Europe. Didn’t knowing what to expect we planned to have also other
possibilities in Europe although Lazar insisted that we stay with them.
We arrived to Dusseldorf airport after a great connection in
Istanbul where we met a great guy from Kuwait - AbdulRahman Alyousef discussing everything and
seeing that there are many Muslim people that actually understand the reality
which we are facing and want to have peace with us, traveling Israel and
enjoying a good friendship.
Lazar met us in the Airport holding 3 flowers for Ira , the meeting
was strange. We went into the car and it looked like both sides don’t really
know how to act, I learned that Lazar is only the official name but everyone
calls him Lyona. That was the first Ice breaker.
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first time after 23 years |
We came to their home and met Nadya, Mira & Mosya , we brought
presents for the kids and wine for the house. We set for a family dinner and tried to act naturally. Actually
it was totally great, the kids spoke great Russian and we enjoyed a happy
family atmosphere.
Lyona took the next day off and we went traveling through
Dusseldorf with him having a good cake and coffee in a nice old bakery and Ira
started to get answers for the huge amount of questions she collected during
the 23 years.
We took a great collage to congratulate our friends at home with
the Jewish new year and had a great hag
dinner at home. Nadya made a great dinner and we enjoyed the food and the
stories.
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First walk |
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Hag dinner |
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having fun |
We decided to take an organized tour to the castles of Moselle
with a Russian company named Compass. This experience reminded me why I hate
organized tours
and that Russian mentality stays with many people in other
countries regardless of how long they lived there. Our guide was rude and absolutely boring. The place was amazing
but the time schedule was absolutely terrible, and the company doesn’t wait
for people a single minute, they just leave them behind.
Please avoid taking the tours with this company .
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feeding leopold |
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cochem |
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leopold |
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one of the castles |
In the next few days we got to know better our new family, and it
even started to fill like one. We took the kids to make fire, went climbing in Bochumer Bruch
(great crag), made camping in the back yard and hiked in the botanic garden.
But all the activities just were addition into creating a nice and
great relationship with the new family.
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making a fire for the first time in their life |
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all together on a Fairy |
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meeting Yeara |
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hope to trow stones one day with my son |
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Monia Bringing wood |
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I'm the bigger Pig |
We went to Reyrmond for Shopping, took a night out Lyona, Ira and
myself in a Bar
where we had a great talk and Ira got a lot of answers, Celebrated
the holidays and even went twice to a synagogue (don’t remember when I went to
one before that).
I loved the breakfasts the dinners , and the regular noise that
comes from a family of 6 , I never had brothers or sisters. Nadya told me one morning that she is very excited that her kids got another two brothers and it actually felt great.
But most of all I loved the fact that Ira gained a new word in her
vocabulary DAD J
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I also climbed few routes |
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Manuel Climbing |
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Mira climbing |
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pitching a tent in the backyard |
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family tent |
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playing cards |
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new brothers |
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visiting Ira's grandmother grave |
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Cheburasha (had a few beers) |
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playing in Barbie |
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last day hike |
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autumn |
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feeding a deer |
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